StrangersNotAllowed

Sunday, November 15, 2009

11:23 AM

Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus

Men believe in the adage that “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.”

Women, on the other hand, might say that “if it ain’t broke, upgrade it.”

Consequently, when a woman offers advice or criticism to a man, the man could misunderstand that she considers him inadequate.

Men like to be considered competent, whereas women like to be cherished.

This difference could result in a misunderstanding.

When a woman asks questions such as “Do you have enough cash?” or “Did you remember your umbrella?” she is treating others as she would like to be treated, but not as a man might like to be treated.

When men share their problems, they want solutions.

When women share their problems, they want empathy.

This difference results in situations in which a woman shares her problems, the man offers solutions, and the woman becomes angry because the man “is just not listening!”

The difference could also result in a man feeling blamed for a problem whereas in fact he is not.

A man often wants solitude when he is thinking about a problem.

A woman should be careful not to bother a man with questions at such a time.

A woman could have mood swings for no discernible reason.

A man should respect those mood swings and not take them personally.

When a man wants help, he asks. When a woman wants help, she doesn’t.

A woman could make a mistake by offering help when a man doesn’t ask.

On the other hand, a man could make a mistake by not sensing when a woman wants help.

Women count all gifts and favors equally, regardless of size or amount. Many small gifts and favors are better than one large, expensive gift or favor.

If a woman asks a man for a favor and the man hesitates, she should allow a few seconds for the hesitation rather than hastily interpreting that hesitation as a refusal.

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